The Do’s and Don’ts of Finding a Third for Your Threesome
Embarking on the thrilling journey of a threesome can be an exhilarating and playful exploration of intimacy. However, the success of this adventure lies in the careful selection of the third participant, and choosing the right person to join your escapade requires thoughtful consideration, communication, and a shared understanding.
Let's dive into the art of selection and explore how to playfully choose the perfect third partner for your threesome.
DO Communicate with Your Partner
Before venturing into the world of selecting a third, engage in open communication with your partner. Discuss desires, boundaries, and expectations to ensure you're both on the same page. The key is to create a foundation of trust, transparency, and a shared vision for your threesome adventure.
DON’T Neglect Boundaries
Don't neglect the importance of establishing and respecting boundaries. Instead, clearly define your desires and establish boundaries together. Whether it's a one-time adventure or a recurring exploration, knowing what you both want from the experience is essential. Set ground rules, communicate openly about preferences, and ensure that both of you feel comfortable with the parameters you've established.
DO Consider Mutual Attraction and Chemistry
Choosing the right person for your threesome involves finding someone with whom both you and your partner feel a mutual attraction and chemistry. It's about selecting someone who complements your dynamic and adds an extra layer of excitement. Pay attention to shared interests, physical attraction, and overall compatibility.
DON’T Make Jokes About a Threesome with Their Brother/ Sister
Seriously. Even joking about it will give your lover the ick and could put them off the idea of a threesome altogether. Just don’t.
DO Weight Up the Pros and Cons of Known Acquaintances vs Strangers
Decide whether you prefer someone you already know or a complete stranger to join your adventure. Some couples feel more comfortable with a friend or acquaintance, while others find the allure of a stranger adds an element of excitement. For those open to connecting with new people, explore online platforms designed for threesome experiences. Be transparent in your profiles about your intentions, desires, and boundaries. Engage in playful conversations to gauge compatibility and ensure everyone is on the same page before moving forward. Discuss the pros and cons of each option and choose based on your shared preferences.
DON’T Disregard Feelings of Unease
Don't disregard feelings of unease or hesitation. If either you or your partner expresses discomfort or second thoughts about a potential participant, take these concerns seriously. Addressing any apprehensions ensures a positive experience for everyone involved.
DO Trust Your Instincts
Lastly, trust your instincts and listen to your gut feelings. If something doesn't feel right or if there's any hesitation, it's essential to address it openly with your partner. Choosing the right person for your threesome is a collaborative decision, and both partners should feel confident and excited about the choice.
DON’T Rush the Decision-Making Process
Don't rush the decision-making process. Take the time to discuss, reflect, and ensure that both you and your partner are fully comfortable with the chosen third participant. Patience is key to building excitement and anticipation.
DO Prioritise Trust and Respect
Selecting a trustworthy and respectful partner is crucial for a positive threesome experience. Look for someone who respects boundaries, communicates openly, and is considerate of both you and your partner's feelings. Trust is the foundation that allows everyone to fully enjoy the experience without reservations.
Remember, the key to a successful threesome lies in open communication, mutual respect, and a shared vision. Playfully explore the possibilities, be considerate of each other's feelings, and embark on this adventure with a sense of excitement and unity.
*Remember to check out our recent post, How to Ask Your Lover for a Threesome!
