10 Tips to Ensure a Great Threesome
Embarking on your first threesome is like stepping onto a new dance floor – exciting, thrilling, and full of potential. We recently shared tips on how to ask your partner for a threesome, and then how to pick a third for your threesome, together. Now that your wildest fantasy is about to become a reality, we’re sharing our top 10 tips to ensure your ménage à trois is a playful symphony of pleasure, and a night you’ll never forget!
- Communicate & Define Boundaries
Engage in open and honest communication with all parties involved. Discuss desires, boundaries, and expectations before the encounter. Establishing ground rules ensures everyone feels comfortable and respected. This sets the stage for a consensual and enjoyable experience.
- Choose the Right Venue
Select a comfortable and relaxed venue for your threesome. Whether it's your bedroom, a cosy hotel room, or a private Airbnb, the right setting contributes to a playful and comfortable atmosphere.
- Pack the Essentials
Remember to have all of the essentials on hand for your encounter – including condoms (safe sex is good sex!), lubricant, and any play accessories or toys you may have discussed prior to the big event.
- Set the Scene
Ambience and environment can make a huge impact on how successful any sexual encounter goes, so consider sensual music, soft lighting and comfortable bedding. You don’t need to scatter a bunch of rose petals around, but you don’t want your environment to feel jarring – and decidedly un-sexy – either.
- Start Slow and Ease Into It
Take your time and start slow. Begin with playful interactions, kisses, and touches. Gradually escalate the intensity to ensure everyone is comfortable and on the same page.
- Be Attentive to Body Language
Pay attention to body language throughout the experience. Non-verbal cues can communicate comfort, excitement, or hesitation. Being attentive ensures a consensual and enjoyable encounter.
- Check-In Regularly
Frequently check in with all participants to gauge comfort levels. Encourage open communication and express any feelings or concerns. This ongoing dialogue fosters trust and ensures a positive experience. Plus, asking for feedback is its own kind of dirty talk – and hearing a resounding YES, YES, YES from your playmates is a major turn-on.
- Embrace Laughter and Playfulness
Embrace the light-hearted and playful side of the encounter. Laughter can break tension and create a relaxed atmosphere, contributing to an enjoyable and memorable experience.
- Make Sure Everyone is Included as they Want to Be
Threesomes are exciting. Suddenly there’s this whole other person available to touch and tease and enjoy – and it can be easy to fall into a trap of focusing all of your attention on the shiny new person in the bed. Make a point of sharing your focus and attention, so everyone feels as included as they want to be. You wouldn’t like to be left out, so take care not to let anyone else feel excluded.
- Connection, Not Perfection
Focus on celebrating the connection rather than seeking perfection. Threesomes are about exploration and shared pleasure, not meeting unrealistic expectations. Enjoy the journey together.
Remember, the key to a successful first threesome is communication, respect, and a playful attitude. By prioritising the comfort and desires of everyone involved, you'll create a memorable and enjoyable experience that leaves everyone smiling. Here's to the triumphant trifecta!
